Starting a Rugby Team at Carondelet Is Like Teaching a Course No One Has Heard Of

I won’t bore you with my background with Rugby, or even with the steps I had to get enough girls out to practice to learn the game. Rather I want to share my experiences with teaching a game that no one knew how to play.

Think about it, you have in depth knowledge of something, you want others to enjoy what you’ve enjoyed, but every time you explain something you find you’re using words they’ve never heard of (lol, it sounds like my classroom). Wrapping in the tackle is extremely important, as is protecting the ball in the ruck, but these words become meaningless without an understanding of the game. So we began with some fundamental basics and built upon it.

Our first practice we had one football (Rugby not Gridiron) and we were practicing catching and passing. It was funny because the girls didn’t want to pass the ball backwards (everyone want to pass forward like in American Football) and more balls were dropped than caught. Fast forward one month and you’ll see a team of young ladies and one or two dropped balls a practice. It has become quite amazing. And so we conquered a skill that is imperative to the game, and we moved forward.

Rugby is a contact sport and so tackling is something that has to be taught. Imagining that tackling is a natural skill is foolish. It can be dangerous to not position your body correctly, so again we started with basics. Now we are at the point where we are playing games against each other and they are doing really well. These skills are important, ordering jerseys is exciting, but the biggest victory is seeing that the girls are seeing growth in the game.

After the first practice we brought the team in to a circle to give a team cry (the cheering kind) on 3. Instead of the usual, “Cougars on 3”, one of the players came up with something different that has become somewhat thematic. She called out “Potentials on 3”. I thought this was cute. They realized they didn’t know how to play the game, but they saw potential in each other. Two practices ago this changed. I expected the potentials on three again (sort of like our unofficial name), but our team captain thought differently. She recognized that the team was actually playing the game, not just having the potential to. So the new cry became, “Skills on 3”.

These labels might seem small, but this shows what the girls know. and their growth. They’ve taken ownership of the team, which is the goal. I’m there to facilitate, but I’m not the one playing, they are. They’ve done what I can’t. They’ve made themselves a team and they’re proud of the progress that they’re making.

I’m excited for our first official game to see what these girls can do, but regardless I’m proud of the small family that they’re creating. I also excited for what comes after “skills”.

Intersecting Bravery and Math

It’s been another rocky start for me in Algebra 2 with Trigonometry.  [Algebra 2 is a predominantly Junior (some Sophomore and rare Freshman) level class.  These students had to meet a prerequisite to get into this class, so as you might imagine they are somewhat accustomed to receiving good grades and doing relatively well in Math.]  Just as with last year, I’m receiving fierce pushback against my style of teaching, which is more “guide on the side” than “sage on the stage.”  Students are  complaining that they aren’t being taught and that they are having to figure out too many things on their own.  Students are complaining that my assessments are too unpredictable and that they can’t handle the anxiety they feel at not knowing exactly on what they will be tested.  Students who had been really good at “doing school math class” up until now are suddenly finding that their usual strategies aren’t working.

There’s so much to unpack in this.  I am teaching them, just not quite as directly as they’d like.  But, perhaps more complicated is that we seem to have different definitions of what math is and what math should be.  I see math as an opportunity for problem solving and critical thinking, as a language and a set of tools that can be used to chip away at unsolvable problems.  My students, on the other hand, see math as a collection of formulas to be memorized and quantities to be calculated, and problems with only right or wrong answers.

To try to bridge this disconnect, and to open a dialogue with them about why I structure the course the way I do (it’s for their own good, I promise!), I planned an entire class period of no math but rather an opportunity for sharing.  I showed them Reshma Saujani’s 2016 Ted Talk, “Teach Girls Bravery, not Perfection.”  There’s so much I love about this talk.  I’ve probably watched it over twenty times and each time I watch it I get chills of excitement.  One of my favorite lines is:

We have to socialize our girls to be comfortable with imperfection, and we’ve got to do it now. …We have to teach them to be brave in schools and early in their careers, when it has the most potential to impact their lives and the lives of others, and we have to show them that they will be loved and accepted not for being perfect but for being courageous. 

I chose this video because I want them to know that they can achieve anything they imagine, but that, socially, they have been wired to back down from many of those dreams, out of caution and out of fear of failure.  In my classroom, in my small way, I want to give them opportunities, safe opportunities, to practice taking risks, practice failing so that it becomes common for them.  I want them to become so good at failing that they will bravely and courageously pursue any dream they have.

I then showed them a short video from Jo Boaler’s Youcubed.org about what math truly is and what it means to be successful in math.  A favorite line from this video is:

No matter how math is presented in school, you should know that math is not about memorization and it is not about calculations.  Math is a much broader subject about ideas, visualization, connections.  And don’t think test scores or grades define who you are or what you can do.  You can do anything.

I love looking around the room when this line is presented (it’s spoken by a fellow student in the video) and it’s such a powerful moment.  I think for many of our students it may be the first time they’ve heard the idea that math isn’t about calculations or formulas.  So many of our students have reduced math to this.

I gave the students surveys before and after watching these videos and we also had time for discussion (some periods more spirited than others) after each video.  This anecdotal feedback is so fascinating.  Below are some results and anecdotes that are particularly interesting,

The above graphic was from the Before Survey.  I find it fascinating how many students don’t see math as a vehicle for problem solving and critical thinking.  For many students, they don’t believe that math is a subject to be figured out.  They believe the only way to learn math is to be taught it by someone more knowledgeable than them.  I am working hard to show my students that much of math can be discovered through experimentation and deduced from very simple principles.

I was heartened to see so many students willing to change, adapt and try a new style of learning, especially after our discussion and the videos.  These comments are from the after survey:

At first, my initial response reflected on my irritation of not understanding the style of teaching. I have been taught that you need to understand the material the second you’re taught it. I’ve learned that it’s okay to not understand at first and feel lost because I will eventually know what is being taught.



I understand more why this class is the way it is, which is good but at first it is a bit of a shock to have things be so different. However, I think that this growth mindset concept is a good one to teach students, especially with all the research backing it up. It should be useful in the future.



I used to be primarily fixed mindset, but after watching these videos I feel as though I can learn to be better at math

I would say now that learning teamwork, critical thinking, and problem solving are things that I will value more during class time.



After learning about the research, I now realize that math is not all about math, but rather about how you look at the math material and your mindset going into it.


I know I will struggle somewhat in this class, but I think my mindset has grown a little more

I am more open to new topics and categories of math now that I haven’t learned before. I am motivated to learn new things and try harder on problems I think I can’t do rather than give up on them.

I really liked these videos and they helped me to realize that I have the ability to solve every math problem as long as I work hard and don’t give up. I like the way the course is going and I’m open to this new style of learning.

I think that this style of teaching will be more challenging in teh moment but more beneficial in the long run.

I used to be primarily fixed mindset, but after watching these videos I feel as though I can learn to be better at math

I appreciated the many students who brought up the very real burden of grades:

I want to be able to make mistakes and learn from them but I am too worried to fall back in grades. I think that it will be difficult to me to forget about the consequences of failing.

I think it’s good that we are learning to have a different mindset but it isn’t very realistic in today’s high school classes

I think that these people in the ted talks and math videos are making a valid point about having to fail to succeed but the way our school system works is that every mistake we make goes straight into the grade book, which makes making any mistake seem like the end of the world.

I think that struggling in math is essential to learning, and I think we will have the opportunity to do that in class. I think that this course may have some benefit for my particular learning style, but I am nervous about what will be graded in this class.

I like the idea of having the growth mindset, but its not always practical. In the video, they said that grades don’t define what you can do. This is sometimes true, but you were given a grade based on what you proved you could do. I think this is interesting, but it’s not realistic and it’s going to take a lot more than just videos to change the school and grading system from how it is now.

I like the idea of our minds becoming stronger, but I feel like the challenges involved cause a lot of anxiety because the grading system penalizes our mistakes.



I still feel hesitant. I believe it will help one-day, but our generation has not been raised me this, which for me, makes it harder for me to become minded about this new style of learning

Other than getting rid of grades altogether (is that a possibility for us?), I don’t have a good answer for this.  I do try to give my students lots of opportunity to fail without a huge grade impact (ability to remaster quizzes and group assessments are two of my favorites) but their concerns are real.

Finally, these two comments really hit me, as I think they are evidence of everything Reshma Saujani talks about:

After the first lesson I cried because I was so stressed about failing. I felt like you valued the benifets of failing but overlooked the grade aspect of it. I feel like this data is accurate though, and I relate. My mother is a perfectionist and stresses the importance of work being perfect. My father treats me like I’m so perfect and precious. Failure isn’t an option. Failing is hard for me.



As much as I’d like to believe in growth mindset I believe it will be difficult to change my view on math as a junior in high school.

Sometimes I think I’m crazy to try to change the way our students learn Math, especially for those who are about to walk out our doors.  I keep thinking it will be so much better in a few years once our Algebra program takes off and students walk into my classes already equipped with bravery and a growth mindset.  Other times I see it as my calling and I believe that it’s never too late to learn and practice courage and risk taking.

I’d love to hear how this is playing out in other departments.  My students tell me all the time that Math is just different:  you need to be taught math.  Critical reasoning is important in History or English but not in a Math classroom.  And the graphic above highlights this perception.  How do you see our girls being brave (or not) and how can I channel that bravery into my math classroom?

Where are the Girls?

I showed this short video clip from the CBS nightly news to my Algebra 2 classes.  It’s only 3 minutes but if you don’t have time to watch, here’s the synopsis:


Four exceptional Kansas high school students who are smart, politically active and forward-thinking are running for governor of Kansas. The state’s constitution has no age — or other requirements — to run.  


What struck me about this clip was WHO these “smart, politically active and forward-thinking” students were:  all boys.  And so, I decided to show it in my classes as a way to continue to remind our girls that they have been socialized to be perfect while boys have been socialized to be brave.  


Something unexpected happened when I showed the video and the Sociology Major inside me is freaking out about it.  After showing the clip, I asked the students whey they thought I chose to show it to them.  I received many responses such as, “You want us to take chances.” and “You want us to reach for the stars” and “You want us to try new things.”  I pushed them more.  Why else might I have showed this to you?  More and more of the same but not one comment on the fact that they were all boys.  I couldn’t believe it!  They were so socialized to expect boys to take these types of risks, they didn’t even see it.  



When I told them I showed this to them because they were boys, there were many a-ha moments, like when you look at a magic-eye puzzle and the hidden image suddenly appears.  I told them that this clip made me mad, because I believed that girls are just as smart and innovative as boys (if not more so!).  I (again) encouraged them to go big, take risks, and that now is the time when they have a safety net under them to catch them when they fall.  None of those boys is going to win the governorship.  But, each of them will experience incredible growth throughout the process, not to mention a killer college essay.