The Power of Mindfulness

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I went to a workshop that actually changed the way I teach and talk about mindfulness.  It was given by this guy named JC Larochette, the founder of Mindful Life Project in Richmond (presented at Creating a Peaceful School Conference organized by Mount Diablo Peace and Justice Center).  The the title of the workshop: Mindfulness – Awakening to the Present Moment.  I went in seeking ideas for our Frosh Wellness: Mind, Body, Spirit class.  I left with much more – stuff I’ve read about, known about, and been taught before but hadn’t really “gotten”. 

When leading students through a mindfulness exercise – I would usually emphasize the idea of clearing their minds of thoughts, worries, fears, and distractions – kind of a “let go and let God” approach – stop thinking and just breath!  But JC’s talk focused on mindfulness as present moment awareness – learning to pay attention to everything on purpose – without judgement.   Breath – yes! AND be aware of your thoughts and feelings without wishing them away.  Now I focus on helping students welcome all they are experiencing – the good, the bad, and the ugly – the joy and the pain.  It’s like this poem by Rumi:

The Guest House by Rumi

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

Also – practicing mindfulness rewires the brain.  It decreases brain activity based in the amygdala (our primitive fight or flight fear-based reactions) and the medial prefrontal cortex – and increases activity in the lateral prefrontal cortex – the region of the brain that manages problem solving/goal setting.  The way JC put it – “the neurons of the brain that fire together, wire together”.  So I’m trying to talk more with students about ALL the benefits of mindfulness: spiritual, socio-emotional, psychological, and physiological. If they know about the science-based evidence that proves mindfulness can help them respond more consistently with empathy, openness and confidence – they’ll see the long term as well as the short term value in it.

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And – when something goes awry or amiss with a student throughout the course of the day/week/year, the approach I’ve been used to taking is to “lean-in”, which works for students who are centered, stable, well rested and adjusted.  It doesn’t work for students who are stressed, afraid, or agitated.  They are operating out of their amygdala – not their lateral prefrontal cortex and me “leaning-in” might just trigger them further.  So I’ve learned to back off and wait until a student is operating out of a calm and grounded place where growth and learning can happen.

 Like so many classes here at Carondelet, our Frosh Wellness MBS course includes prayer and mindfulness every day.  It’s awesome that we are giving students the opportunity to create and strengthen the neural pathways that cause more calm, confident, compassionate, and centered responses.  Mindfulness (“strategically living in the here and now” -JC)  is a golden ticket that will help them/me/all of us navigate life’s challenges!

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Should I feel guilty about how much school I’ve missed the past 2 weeks?

Should I feel guilty about how much school I’ve missed the past 2 weeks?
Last week I was on Shalom. This week I went on two Urban
Plunges. And soon I am leaving for Ven a Ver Appalachia.  As I said yes to be a part of each of these
experiences I never once decided to look at a calendar to see how close all of
these events were. Yikes. Obviously the idea of discernment and praying on
things is lost on me – I always feel like it’s better to say yes in the moment
and figure out a way to make it all work later.
The amount of time that I have spent/am spending outside of
the classroom during these last couple of weeks has me feeling guilty,
especially since I have three sections of freshmen and none of these
trips/experiences are geared toward them. To make matters worse my freshmen
have a huge project (The Little Big History Project) due on Friday and I have
not been there as much as I would have liked to check in with them and help
them.
I seriously considered giving up one of these events to be
physically present in the classroom – but didn’t. I am not sure that I made the
right choice but I am rationalizing that I did by being super thankful for the
following things;
Big History/Big
Voices team is awesome
The value of a collaborative class is that we have 6 teachers
plus the incredible ally-ship of Michelle and Joan which makes this team super dynamic
and sustainable – also our group chat memes are 🔥. My teaching life changed
dramatically when I was teamed with Joanie and Gaeby who are the best buds ever. We pick up the slack for each
other, we check in on each other’s students, and we cover for each other when
needed. I know that when I am gone they are there to help my students because
we are all doing the same things. The reality that my class will be able to go on without me is both humbling and liberating.  Having Jenny who I share all of my 9th
graders with helps me to have a more holistic view of my students, helps us
each use our strengths, and allows me to learn SO much from a teacher I have an
incredible amount of respect for.  In simpler terms my freshmen were in good hands without me. 
I need to see my
students outside of the classroom
It is easy to really forget all that is on our students’
plate, and at the same time it is easy for them to not realize that their
teachers are real dynamic humans who exist in the real world. The time spent in
small groups on Shalom or working with them side by side on Urban Plunge was so
valuable to me. I have a great appreciation for them and the ways in which they
are burned out but still wanting to engage. Though I could have done without
sharing a cabin with the juniors on retreat,I have a better appreciation for
their experience and also feel like I gained more rapport with them. I came back with a
better sense of how to lesson plan for them for the rest of the year because I understand them just a bit better.
Also – it is hard for me to “catch up” after missing school, so I can only imagine how hard it is for our students. I definitely came back more compassionate to my students who have had extended absences as frustrating as keeping up with make up work can be. 
I needed to
connect with my colleagues more than I realized.
The most valuable thing about these retreats to echo Siobhan’s
recent post is that I get a chance to connect with my colleagues in an “unproductive”
way. Spending 3 hours in rush hour traffic on a bus with Tiz, Ashley Chavez,
Monique, Siobhan, and Natalie was actually awesome. Serving 1500 meals with
Ashley Clemens who I never see during the regular work day was awesome. I came
home from all of those experiences so drained but so recharged at the same
time. From what I am learning about myself and what I have learned in the engagement team is that we all want connection and I would argue that retreats are one way for teachers/staff to have this in an authentic way.
How do you all feel about missing a lot of class time for
other school sponsored events? What do you get out of the experience that leads
you to faithfully sign up for some of these events? 

True Life: I Actually Like Retreats.

I have a love-hate relationship with retreats.

As a highschool student I hated retreats. As a high school campus minister who ran the retreats, I hated them. However, as a Carondelet faculty member, I love retreats.

Last year I dabbled in retreats by attending Alpha and Shalom. This year I went big….Alpha, Kairos, and then Shalom. (By the way, this was my first time every participating in Kairos and I wear my Kai-rock with pride) Each retreat was a unique experience. All of them gave me the opportunity to interact with students and faculty members in a way that created connection.

I led small groups on each retreat and had the privilege of getting to learn more about our students in a more relaxed environment. Kairos and Shalom really gave me an opportunity to sit and talk with fellow faculty members. It was legitimately fun to be able to laugh, eat, and share stories with faculty members outside of my department. It seemed on Kairos and Shalom that faculty members needed the retreat just as much as the students. Just as we hope the students relax and create bonds on the retreats, I hope that we, as a faculty, can relax and create bonds with one another.

Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are. – Chinese Proverb

I just had to share this.  Today.

 
From Melville House
May 10, 2012

St. Patrick of Armagh, deliver me from writing

by


“The history of bookmaking hasn’t been without its challenges, but
never was its craft as painstaking as during the era of illuminated
manuscripts,” says Maria Popova. Well, try laying out an ebook that has art in it. But Popova makes a good case in a commentary for Brainpickings.org, citing a recent Lapham’s Quarterly article
(not available online) that lists complaints written by monks found
scribbled in the margins of those medieval illuminated manuscripts.
Some examples:

This parchment is hairy.
Thank God, it will soon be light.
New parchment, bad ink; I will say nothing more.
Now I’ve written the whole thing: for Christ’s sake give me a drink.
St. Patrick of Armagh, deliver me from writing.

Think of that, modern day publishers, the next time you find yourself
working late at night on one of those tedious requirements of
modern-day publishing, like, say, blogging. At least your keyboard isn’t
… hairy ….

Dennis Johnson is the founder of MobyLives, and the co-founder and co-publisher of Melville House. Follow him on Twitter at @mobylives

How many notifications do students get in a class period?!

I have Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, and Facebook, group text messages, an iPhone and an Apple Watch. I might not be Gen Z like our students, but I have empathy for them. I know what it is like to text during a high school class.

Last week I came across a Twitter “retweet” of the picture below. The teacher, for one class period had students turn their phone “ringers” on and instructed students to tally every time they received a notification and this was the result.

I decided to try the experiment with my junior classes. On Monday, in a 45 minute class, I was ready to go. Instead of students getting up from their seats to tally, I just had them call out what classification of notification they received and I made the marks.
I felt/learned/observed 3 things from this experiment…

1. I feel badly for our students and their level of notifications.
2. I would guess about half of the students in each period never yelled out a single notification.
3. Students need to learn HOW to MANAGE their cell phones since it doesn’t seem to be something that is disappearing from their lives any time soon.
Period 3
Period 1
P.S. the circled numbers in the above photo are from group messages of three students… the three students told their friends to flood their group message…and they thought I didn’t know it…except I did….and then other students of mine later on in the day told me “hey _ told me to text them over and over”
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Confessions of a podcast junkie.

Hello. My name is Lindy and I am addicted to podcasts.  I listen to a ridiculous amount of podcasts from a variety of genres: education; news; politics; economy; pop culture; religion; etc. Some days I burn through so many episodes that very little sticks with me.  Then there are other days when a particular episode stops me in my tracks and I cannot stop thinking about its content and I find I switch to music instead of starting the next podcast because I want to let it soak in or continue to guide me to new revelations and new questions.  

The latest podcast episode to do this for me was from On Being with Krista Tippet.  The podcast and media network began as conversations with its founder and religious leaders and seekers. It has since to cover other areas.  Due to how many podcasts I listen to I sometimes get a bit behind, so this episode was from July 2017 and it features Krista interviewing Danah Boyd who is principal researcher at Microsoft Research and the founder of Data & Society research institute. Her books include It’s Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens and Participatory Culture in a Networked Era.
As an educator and mom of a young one I think about technology and children/teens A LOT.  I think about my own journey with technology and how as an older millennial I feel connected to both the narratives of Generation-X and Millennials. I long for the simple childhood I had and not the overscheduled, technology dependent children I see every day.  Danah explains some of the historical contexts around technology I hadn’t thought of before.  I highly suggest listening to the interview or reading the transcript. I’d love to compare thoughts and ideas regarding the points addressed and how we as educators can help bring our expertise into the digital lives of the young people around us.  We are all learners!  
I narrowed it down to three quotes I’d like to share. 
1.    “the internet mirrors, magnifies, and makes more visible the good, bad, and the ugly of everyday life,” and that also what you’re saying, that pain and prejudice offline translate into pain and prejudice online, and likewise, community and all kinds of good things [laughs] — good things offline translate into online. It’s the fullness of who we are
a.    Powerful right?! I think I was aware of this but hadn’t stopped to really internalize it.  


2.    This one is a shout out to Joan Tracy because she and I have had many conversations about the term digital natives in the past.

The reason that I object to the digital natives frame is because it assumes that skills and learning just come down from the sky magically for people who were born at a certain time or are of a certain age. Young people spend a tremendous amount of time learning how to navigate these tools, these technologies, the people. They’re not afraid of them, so they’re willing to experiment, and their networks and friends are all willing to experiment and explore with them. But at the same time, when we use the term “digital natives,” we assume, then, that adults don’t have anything to teach young people, and that is so not true. Young people don’t know how to construct a query. They don’t understand how information is architected. They don’t necessarily understand the broader media landscape, the kinds of propaganda that go on. They don’t necessarily understand biases within the algorithms that they see. And so when we hear these messages — I hear them all the time, like “A site like Wikipedia is bad.” And then a teenager will tell me, “But my teacher told me that Google is good.” And you’re just sitting here going, “How do you think that Google comes up with the answers?” They’re like, “Well, they choose the best ones.” And you’re like, “And who does this?” And they’re like, “Oh, well, somebody that works at Google.” And you’re like, “No. [laughs] That’s not how this works.” And so there’s this moment of these — of assuming the capabilities, because they’ve learned something in the social realm, will apply to everything else related to the technology. And because we have spent so much time assuming kids to be perfectly competent because they’re using Instagram happily, we’re not actually investing in helping them become critical and intelligible users of these tools, such that they can transfer it into something that is akin to building them.”          
Dang.  I struggle with my mom frequently because I’m her tech support phone call and without fail every time she is struggling or something isn’t working for her she says “I just didn’t grow up using this!” Well, actually neither did I, I am just not afraid of it.  I think this is our stark difference of approach.   I also am lucky enough to be married to a software engineer that explains a lot of how the internet and websites work.  And, I admit he’s my tech support – I think we all have to have someone right!?

3.    And finally, how society has changed as the internet and technology has risen. Also, that it can be both a place for bullying and/or/both? support.
And I realized that over the last 30 years, a lot has changed about American society. We have a tremendous amount of fearmongering that emerged in light of 24/7 news, like the 1980s were filled with the introduction of all sorts of laws around curfew and anti-loitering and anti-trespassing. We created this concern that public spaces like the park were a terrible, terrible place. We were worried about latchkey kids. We were worried about school buses. We clamped down on young people, and we started, especially in middle to upper class environments, structuring every day of their lives. We increased the levels of homework. We put tremendous amounts of pressure on young people. And all they want to do is just hang out with their friends. And part of what made it so visible to me is, it wasn’t just a matter of them getting on their bike and going out and being home by dark, which was the old way. It was the fact that they need all of their other friends to be allowed to do so too. And that’s where we started to see that difficulty — because even if a parent was like, “Oh, you have flexibility,” if your friends don’t, there’s no point.
And along comes this technology. And this technology all of a sudden is like, “I know I can get to my friends and my broader peer group, even when I’m stuck at home, even when our timing is slightly off because of our structured schedules being slightly different. And I know that they’re there.” And all of a sudden, you see a social technology being able to work as a mediator in light of all of these other cultural conditions that we’ve forgotten that we created.
MS. TIPPETT: So, do we similarly — is it your sense that we similarly overemphasize the dangers involved in roaming around the internet? And also, are we in danger of over-regulating that or regulating it in a way that doesn’t make sense?
MS. BOYD: From my perspective, absolutely. And this is where, again, you start to look at the data — usually, when we talk about dangers online, we hit a couple of different areas. It’s usually conduct, contact, and content. Those are the three C’s. Conduct is where we get worried about bullying. When we untangle all of what’s going on around there, we find that young people are really struggling, writ large, with bullying, but they’re not actually seeing the internet as anything other than a support network in light of it. And of course, there are exceptions to this. And that’s part of what makes people anxious.

This post is WAY longer than I meant it to be.  If you stayed with me, I thank you! I encourage you to take a listen or read the transcript of the interview.  

Also as I am going on maternity leave Friday the 25th– anyone have any other podcast recommendations for me? I may have the time to really power through a backlog this leave 😉 

I already listen to from NPR: Code switch, planet money, the indicator, pop culture happy hour, It’s been a minute, How I built this.  Also Good Job Brain! (a trivia podcast hosted by my friend Karen – it’s local and a blast. They haven’t recorded lately but their backlog is awesome and fun!) Freakanomics, The Daily, ID10T, Mindshift and Q’ed up (From KQED), Oprah’s master class and super soul Sunday, The RobCast, Together live, Unspoken, On Being, The Good place Podcast (if you watch the show I cannot recommend to podcast that follows the episodes enough!!!), Magic Lessons with Elizabeth Gilbert, and finally Serial.  Whew…. So any other great ones I am missing?! 


Death, Sex, & Money Podcast– When a Banker was Called to the Convent

I recently listened to an episode from the Death, Sex, &
Money podcast that featured an interview with Sister Josephine Garrett who recently
took her final vows with the Sisters of the Holy Family of Nazareth. It was a
super moving/honest look at one women’s journey from the finance world to the
convent – and yes I am recommending this everyone, not just religion teachers.
So much of the recent stuff out there about Catholic Sisters
are super dated and un-relatable, super scandalous (aka the gambling CSJs in
Southern California), super irreverent (The
Little Hours
–Netflix) or so brutally sad (The Innocents – Netflix) that nuns almost become caricatures instead of people. This podcast was a breath of fresh
air.
Teaching about religious vocations is already so obscure to
so many of our students who can’t imagine why anyone would choose the religious
life – I think what makes it even cooler is the fact that a non-religious host
brought so much respect and dignity to a lifestyle misunderstood by so many.  I cant wait to share with my juniors.
It’s a super easy listen for the drive home or while doing
stuff around the house – if anyone ends up listening let me know!

Why do I get anxious for finals? I’m not the one taking them.



Every time I sit down to grade finals I have a mild panic
attack. Granted – I am prone to over thinking and anxiety anyway – but I don’t
have this with grading at any other point in the year. 
      Questions swirling around
my head;

  •       Was my final good enough? What makes a final a
    final anyway??
  •       If my students didn’t stress out over my final
    did I even do my job?
  •       Why didn’t I write a better rubric? Why didn’t I
    foresee the glitches?
  •       How much should this assessment impact my student’s grade this late in the semester?
  •       How would another (better) teacher grade this?
    Do I really know what I am doing?
  •       Did I grade too hard? Was I way too soft? –
    Probably the latter honestly.
  •       Are my grades too high? I really am happy with
    the work have done but shouldn’t my grades be more like a bell curve than a Nike
    swoosh?
  •       How does someone go to summer school for religion
    anyway??
  •        Should I let students know that the grades are in in
    case they want to see them before Christmas Would that just be chaos?
  •      Ah.

Anyway – my grades are in. Per my usual I went over
everything 10 times to make sure there were no surprises. Is this a new teacher
thing? Is this a crazy person thing? Does anyone else question the heck out of
themselves before submitting grades?

Is it Actually Schoolwork or Homework?


Schoolwork at Home
Sometimes schoolwork outside of school is necessary.
We can’t get around it…but this made me stop to think about how much actual “homework”
our students get to do when they go home.


Do they get to eat at a dinner table free of distractions? Do they get to have real conversations with parents? Do they do their own laundry? Do they actually get to spend time, in person, with their friends outside of class and practice? My best afternoons of high school were when my best friend and I had no homework, no obligations, and could go shop or get froyo or go to the golf driving range. (to clarify I did not golf, my talent was placing the ball on the tee for my League MVP best friend). 
With that said…..guess what I am going to do? Assign “schoolwork at home”.
However, I am going to ask them to interview a parent, grandparent, teacher, or other relative that is
married. I want them to have a conversation with the adult about the ups and downs and true reality
of marriage since we have just learned about the Sacrament of Matrimony.
While the interview will have to be done at home I am giving them a block period to actually complete
the “schoolwork” part. After reading Miranda’s blog about her students vlogging during Thanksgiving
and hearing student feedback when I observed, I am inspired to figure out ways to facilitate
“schoolwork at home” that actually creates true “homework”.

Venaver DC

I have been holding off on blogging about my experience attending Venaver DC. The Ignatian family teach-in because I am still processing the journey we went on! I had never been to DC and I am so grateful to have finally visited our capital.  I felt a connection to being American that I had previously not known.

I have been teaching religion for twelve years and there have been so many moments of immense joy (and struggles too) in teaching about the Catholic faith.  I saw such a beautiful version of our church in the participants in the teach in.  I was invigorated to see so many young people speak their truth in regard to social justice issues, including DACA, immigration, LGBTQ rights, praying for the victims of abuses by priests and so much more.

Some highlights:

  • Getting to know some amazing students that I have not had the chance to teach.
  • Traveling with and getting to know Susan Domanico and spending time with Lacy as well. 
  • Hearing from educators from around the country who are guiding their students to pursue topics of injustice
    • I went to a phenomenal break out session with two faculty who advise the Brophy College prep dream on campaign.  These students are on fire and getting things accomplished in their community.  The advisors advice: Let your students lead! Do not create positions of leadership for the student groups and plug in students.  Rather, the leadership needs need to be identified and created by the students.  Radical to me and for them it is working.  
  • Being present to our own Sasha Williams and her powerful message to the entire conference! If you haven’t seen her speech I highly recommend it.  
  • Taking our time walking through the Holocaust museum will forever stay with me.  I know I have a whole new perspective on the Holocaust and it will reflect in my teaching of global conflict, Judaism and our response to those in need.  
  • Watching our students beautifully address representatives from Sen. Feinsteins office and Rep. Mark DeSaulnier office.  Our girls who attended are dynamic, passionate and ready to use their voice for the voiceless and I couldn’t be prouder of them.